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6 SIGNS THAT YOU SELF-SABOTAGE

and how to overcome it

Maybe you were working really hard to better your life, but when things got uncomfortable and uneasy, you immediately revert back to your old, self sabotaging self. It's like she was always right there, waiting for you to come crawling back. She would always welcome you back with open arms and a tub of ice cream.

Do you feel defeated? Even if you do, maybe you were just so glad to be back in the comfort zone of not trying too hard anymore. Maybe you were afraid of that ‘failure’ again, so it would always take a while to break back out and try again. It was a vicious cycle.

Look, you were never failing. you were self-sabotaging. Did you really ever allow yourself to give it you all? Was this because you would back down and run when things got uncomfortable? Self-sabotaging is a mental trap. A bad habit, and just like any bad habit, it can be broken but will be a little uncomfortable.

It's Time to Break Out of Your Comfort Zone!

Maybe you're wondering how to stop self-sabotaging?

You need to realize that you are holding yourself back from living your best life, because you are comfortable with your familiar life. 

I realized that I was holding myself back from my own best life, because I was comfortable with my easy and familiar life. 

We get in our own way far more than life, other people, or bad luck sabotage our success. We really are our own worst enemy. You’d be amazed by how much easier your life would be if you weren’t constantly sabotaging your success. Understanding that fact is half the battle to overcoming it.

Signs Of Self-Sabotaging Behavior

  • Constantly self critical

  • Overindulgent

  • Picking arguments

  • Procrastination

  • FEAR

  • Staying comfortable

We all have times when we criticize ourselves, procrastinate and overindulge, but if you self sabotage, you do these things so much that they are holding you back! If you choose comfort over progress, that is a sure-fire sign you self sabotage.

How To Overcome Self-Sabotaging

1. Let go of the past

Mistakes from the past don’t mean that you’re doomed to failure in the future. The past should be used as educational material, not as a predictor of the future. Leave your past in the past and create the future you desire.

2. See the big picture

Allow yourself to imagine how great your life will be once you get out there. Envision your home, your job, your family.

3. Avoid talking to yourself unless you’re going to say something nice

 

You spend too much time saying negative things to yourself. Eventually, you begin to believe them. Such negative input gives you an incorrect opinion of yourself and your capabilities. Ensure that your self-talk is supportive and positive.

4. Notice your habits that sabotage your success

Think about what you want to be successful at and notice your habits that stand in your way. For example, if you want to lose weight, but you eat a bag of chips every time you’re stressed, that habit is sabotaging your success.

  • Make a list of all the habits that sabotage your success. Write down all the ways in which those habits inhibit your success. What is the cost of each of those habits? Being aware of the damage these habits cause can make it easier to change them.

5. Define your fear

All self-sabotage is rooted in fear. What exactly are you afraid of? Are you afraid of embarrassing yourself? Are you afraid of finding out that you’re not capable? Are you afraid of success? Are you afraid of how people will view you?

6. Understand the basic fear that is causing you to sabotage yourself

Unless you can either get over that fear or remove it, you’ll continue to get in your own way.

7. Set small goals

Big goals can be scary, especially to someone who self-sabotages. Set small SMART goals, that are easily attainable, realistic and timely. Make a plan of action to follow through with your goals. You will feel empowered and stronger once you start making progress!

If you’re realizing how much you’re holding yourself back, that’s the first step in taking back control. You know it’s time to step out of the comfort zone, let go of fear and accept that you deserve more and are more than capable of making it happen!

If you’re realizing how much you’re holding yourself back, that’s the first step in taking back control. You know it’s time to step out of the comfort zone, let go of fear and accept that you deserve more and are more than capable of making it happen!

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